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How to Survive a Breakup?
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Breakups can feel like the other side of the coin of the joy you once experienced in your relationship. While not inevitable, they are…
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Breakups can feel like the other side of the coin of the joy you once experienced in your relationship. While not inevitable, they are often unavoidable. Here’s the biological explanation in two sentences:

	The surge of feel-good hormones (dopamine and oxytocin) during the relationship creates an addiction that wreaks havoc after a breakup.
	Your brain does everything it can to make you go back, all in the name of survival and procreation.

As a result, even if the breakup is logical and beneficial for both parties, emotional pain takes over your entire being. Here’s a structured plan to help you navigate this challenging period:
Step 1: Understand and Recognize the Feelings
Congratulations, you’ve already taken this step by acknowledging the pain and learning about its mechanisms. Recognizing what you’re feeling is the first move toward healing.
Step 2: Grieve the Loss
Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed for a few hours or even a whole day. Play songs that remind you of the relationship, look through shared photos, and let yourself cry as much as you need to. Reflect on all the good moments you shared, but also on the fact that it’s over.The purpose? To release endorphins through tears and prepare yourself for the next step.
Step 3: Remove Triggers
Once you’ve grieved, use the calmness from the endorphin rush to eliminate reminders of the relationship. Delete photos, videos, and songs that bring them to mind. Clear out anything that could pull you back into the past.
Step 4: Channel Your Anger
Anger can be a powerful motivator. Use it to get moving—literally. Put on comfortable shoes, head outside, and walk briskly, as far as you can. If you’re still angry when you reach the edge of the city, walk back home. Repeat until you’re exhausted.When you’re done, take a long alternating cold and hot shower. Let the physical exertion and temperature changes flush out stress hormones.
Step 5: Accept That It’s Not the End of the World
Now that your mind is calmer and the pain less intense, it’s time to shift your perspective. Recognize that this breakup is neither a defeat nor a loss—it’s simply a chapter of your life that didn’t work out. Ahead of you lies a world full of new people, opportunities, and experiences. Behind you, a series of victories and good times.
Step 6: Reduce Idle Time
Identify the gaps in your daily schedule and fill them with meaningful activities. Spend time with friends and family, or pick up new hobbies that engage your mind and body.
Step 7: Explore New Activities
Read books, watch movies, try a sport, or join a social group. Expanding your horizons will create new sources of oxytocin and dopamine while helping you form fresh connections.
Step 8: Reflect on the Past
When you’re no longer in pain and your mind is clear, revisit the relationship with a logical lens. Do you see any reason to be sad? Likely not. Smile, and move forward with your life.
Remember: breakups are tough, but they’re also an opportunity for growth and transformation.

Friday 08:30 AM, 15 November 2024
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